My friend Erin (names changed) got engaged few months ago, and last I heard from her, their relationship was on the rocks. She was even thinking of breaking it off. She told me all about how they are not compatible anymore and not meant to be with each other. I listened to her story and felt there was something more to what she was telling me.
I asked her a few questions, and her answers gave me the hints as to what exactly went wrong in their relationship. There were career switches for both, moving to new place and making new friends, it got very stressful. In the process, they lost the major factor in a successful relationship. T-R-U-S-T.
Relationship is built on the foundation of trust. And trust is the most important ingredient in any relationship recipe. If trust is gone, relationship won't survive. I had Erin analyze her situation from her fiancés point of view, and she understood instantly what went wrong.
There are certain things that should be maintained to keep the bond strong. Here are three concrete ways to keep that spark alive.
- Do not take each for granted: As mentioned earlier, when the honeymoon period between a couple ends, there is this instinct feeling that your partner will start understanding what you wish to say. Express your needs and desires clearly. Do not make them guess what you need.
- Be predictable: Surprising each other every now and then is different, but a behavior should not flip flop much. Your partner should know the real you. The more predictable you are, the more they can rely on you.
- Believe in each other: In order for a relationship to succeed and to keep that trust alive, you need to support and believe in each other. Believe in your partner's competency and always be there to support them.
It is human nature to want what we don't have. With little effort, patience and understanding, it won't be too long to rebuild that trust in your relationship.
The Magic of Making Up is one of the most impressive books written by author T W Jackson that address issues related to relationships and how to have a good one. Techniques revealed in The Magic of Making Up are very unique and effective. It is a great system to get back your lost love and trust.